Evelyn, my brave, beautiful and introverted daughter has played the violin for about two years. She struggles with shyness/being heard though her words. So when she chose to play the violin. My husband and I felt that maybe she would feel more comfortable being heard through music. This too has been a struggle.
Recently she came to me and asked if she could start with a brand new teacher. I was surprised. This was out of her "comfort zone" but I was completely willing to fulfill her request. She has never really asked for anything so I knew this was important to her. When I asked her the reason she said, "I want to start again. I want to take a chance on something new."
"HELL YES!" I replied to her! (Yes... on occasion I curse in front of my children).
And so I arranged for her to start with another teacher, Liza Grossman.
I have known Liza since I was 9 years old and she 19. She was my first orchestra director. We have watched each other grow up and develop careers out of our passions. So I asked and she agreed.
The universe works in amazing ways. Last night in her lesson, Evelyn of course very shy, spoke softly and made no eye contact. But whenever Liza spoke, she would lock eyes with Evelyn and speak directly to Evelyn's eyes about what she needed to do with her body to get a bigger sound out of her violin.
Evelyn has a lot to say to the world through her violin so she needed a bigger sound. As Evelyn would play her piece, Liza kept saying the words "Risk it Evelyn!" Meaning... play loud, be bold, be heard even if you squeak or mess up.
I watched as my daughter's whole demeanor changed. She stood straight and confident and was willing for the first time to be heard loudly even if she messed up. She left that lesson a new person. She had words for what she was doing in her life.
I could tell she was proud of herself and so was I, for a few reasons. She knew what she needed all by herself. She didn't need to ask her friends or me what we thought. This was her idea not mine. She did what was best for her.
She RISKED it.
She risked me saying no.
She risked trying a new teacher out of her comfort zone.
This little one is determined to not let fear run her life. It's INSPIRING