In my Empowered Women workshops, one of the first things we discuss is the difference between empowerment and aggression. To me this is vital. I use to think to be empowered meant you had to be aggressive. This idea is very common, especially to woman. In fact, it is the complete opposite. Being aggressive means you are trying to control something outside of you (a person or situation). While you may think you feel stronger you have actually lost power. You will be left with a residue of questioning yourself, fear or anger.
Being empowered has everything to do with unplugging from situations and people that drain you. It involves having strong boundaries; knowing when you are scared but have a fire in your belly to say yes. And most importantly when to say no firmly but with compassion and understanding. For many of us (especially women), we must practice feeling and using our personal power in our lives.
As you practice truly feeling, I promise you will begin to feel the difference between aggression and empowerment. With aggression will come anger and resentment. With empowerment comes love and understanding for you and the other person.
Once you feel it, you will never want to turn back. It's your time. You deserve it.
Photo credit to the one and only brilliant @joyfireburn Nick Brilla