I was talking to a good friend a few months back. She said something I had heard many times, "You just have to let that go and just move on." I remember responding with..."Don't you think I want to let it go? If it was that simple I would have done it?"
I had heard it 100 times in yoga classes.
I have said it while teaching!
Really? It's that simple? Let it Go?
I needed to redefine what "Let It Go" meant to me.
To me it is not just saying, “I'm over it” and moving on. If I did, it would be a lie and we as humans thrive on TRUTH (spiritual or speaking). While it is true that I have moved on with my life, trust me when I say that is NOT letting go.
My definition may include the following:
And most importantly it involves forgiveness.
Letting go comes in pieces. It's not just one big block of hurt and sadness.
It's not about being a victim but instead standing in your greatness. Accepting from this moment on, what you deserve. Picking up the pieces... one piece at a time. Taking the energy and emotional investment you had in that relationship or project and beginning to invest it elsewhere. Its shifting your focus to begin leaving behind the person or thing(s) you lost in such a way that you're free to pick up another piece (instead of staring at the same piece again and again). Finally you will come to the last piece. It could be regrets, unfulfilled expectations, a lifestyle you use to have, or a dream you had.
Is it easy?
Is it necessary?
It takes patience.
It takes forgiveness.
It takes having courage and a greater security in embracing life.
It's a process that may be repetitive and some days easier then others.
AND most important, it happens in pieces when you are ready.